Your child may be the first in the family to go to college to earn a degree. It was a proud moment for your and your spouse to send your child out into the world. With the lack of noise in your home, you realized you were only staying married for your child.
Divorce can be a hard subject for a child to understand. You may be wondering if your child may still be affected by your divorce while they are in college. That last thing you may want to do is upset their studies. Here’s what you should know:
Your divorce may not be as emotionally traumatizing to your college student
It’s typical for a child to lash out in anger when they find their parents are getting a divorce. They may suddenly shut you out of their life, fight with you or even feel they are the cause of your divorce. College students may not respond to your divorce the same way.
While your child is at college they won’t have the same experiences of your divorce then if they lived with you. Much of their life will be spent focusing on classes, hobbies, friends and clubs. That’s not to say they won’t be affected at all by your divorce.
Your child still depends on you to be their parent, even after divorce. They may feel they won’t have the same parental support they had before college. They may even feel confused about how to act now that you’re divorced. Communicating with your child about your divorce can ease them into what differences have occurred once they return home.
You should also consider addressing the following in your divorce:
- Where your student will stay when they’re home to visit, if the family home is sold during the divorce
- How college expenses will be shared by you and your ex-spouse for the next several years
- Who will keep your student on their car insurance and health insurance plans until school is over
Those issues can matter a lot to your student, so they’re important to talk about. If you are seeking a divorce, make sure you know what options you have when a child is in the picture.