Divorce in North Carolina can often be a contentious procedure. Issues such as property division, spousal support and child custody can lead to tempers flaring.
Once the divorce process has arrived at its conclusion, former spouses often go their own way. However, when children are involved, this is generally not possible. Both parents have a legal right to be involved in their child’s life. This is also typically what the courts prefer to happen.
Therefore, you can expect at least a minimal level of interaction with your spouse throughout the time that your child is growing up. It might be in your best interests to try and remain civil during this period. Outlined below are some strategies for avoiding conflict with your ex-spouse after divorce.
Be willing to compromise
Conflicts often arise because neither party is willing to give and take. Consider what is really important to you and whether there is any room for maneuver. At times, former spouses can become obsessed with scoring points against one another. This is not necessarily the most ideal route to take either for your own well-being or the needs of the child.
Stay on task
If you don’t get along with your former spouse, it can be easy to let minor disagreements spiral out of control. It might be helpful to ensure that focus stays on the issues at hand, such as the handover of your child during visiting days. Even if your ex seems determined to start an argument, an angry reaction is usually counterproductive.
Life both during and after divorce can be challenging, but there is no need to make it more difficult than it needs to be. Where possible, it can help you to remain amicable with your ex, particularly when children are involved. As a parent in North Carolina, you should also know that you are legally protected.