Divorce is almost always fraught with pain and heartache. Regret and sometimes outrage often come to the surface as well. All those strong emotions are amped up notably if one spouse’s cheating is the cause for the collapse of your marriage.
Knowing that the person who vowed to spend the rest of their life with you was with someone else behind your back, perhaps for a long time, can be devastating. Loyalty and fidelity mean everything to you. This leaves you asking the toughest of questions: Where does your marriage go from here? Can the damage be rectified or are you headed for divorce?
The answer is different for every couple in North Carolina. It takes plenty of work, patience and trust to rebuild what has been eroded. New bonds between the two of you may have to be forged, along with a new understanding of the rules and boundaries of your relationship.
What you need to think about
There are lots of issues that may cross your mind as you contemplate parting permanently from your partner due to their infidelity. Here are a few of these issues.
- Did your partner commit adultery because there were simmering problems in your marriage that should have been cleared up long ago? Are those problems still blocking a reconciliation?
- Are you willing to confront head-on the reality of what has happened and either resume your life alone or stay together and adjust to a “new normal” mode?
- One of the main pillars of a marriage is trust. If you find yourself tormented by thoughts of who your spouse is with every time they walk out the door, then the trust between you is pretty threadbare.
Deciding to split for good
After careful thought, you may want to end your marriage. If that is the case, make sure you have sound legal advice throughout the process.