There are occasions where people who want to get a divorce decide to put it off or don’t finish the divorce process because they think that they don’t have a good enough reason to end their marriage. They assume that something has to go drastically wrong, such as finding out that their spouse is in another relationship or dealing with serious financial problems.
While these types of major issues do often lead to divorce, don’t assume you must experience an event of that magnitude to split up. In many cases, marriages end because people just drift apart. This is still a valid reason to seek a divorce. There is no obligation to prove to the court that anything more drastic happened, as North Carolina has no-fault divorce laws.
Why it happens
Drifting apart is something that happens slowly, and it’s often just because life gets busy. You have children and became more focused on being a parent than a spouse. Maybe your spouse gets a new job and spends 60 hours a week at the office, leaving you little time together. The passion that you felt at the beginning of the relationship fades and things grow stale.
Many people will talk about how to “save a marriage” in a situation like this, and it may be possible, but it’s also important to remember that this is your one life to live. If you’re unhappy with it and you know you need a change, that’s all the reason you need to seek something more or different. When you do, it can help to have an experienced law firm on your side.