Parents who decide that it’s time to divorce need to ensure that they’re doing what’s best for their children. This isn’t always easy, but there are some parenting mistakes that any adult going through this should know so that they can avoid making them.
One of the most important things that you should avoid is badmouthing your ex in front of the kids. Even though you might not get along with your ex, they’re still your children’s other parent. Your children shouldn’t have to deal with trying to figure out why one parent is saying horrible things about the other one. You should also be careful about who you speak to about your ex because you don’t need them carrying tales that could later make your co-parenting difficult.
Another thing to avoid is trying to compete with your ex for your children’s affection. Your children can love both parents, so don’t let everything become a contest. You don’t have to out-do your ex by taking the kids on a costly vacation or buying them expensive toys. Instead, try to focus on enjoying the time you have with them.
You can help your children to adjust to life between two houses by making sure they know that your house is home. Your children should have a dedicated space at your home. This might be a bedroom or set of drawers. The key is that they need a place to leave items at your house. Ideally, you and your ex can do away with having to make the kids pack a suitcase to move between homes. Having clothing and other essentials at both homes may help them to feel more secure.
Make sure that the parenting plan is in order as quickly as possible. This helps your kids to be able to settle into a routine. Your attorney can help you get this done.