Now that you are going through divorce, you may want to make the process as easy on your children as possible. Because of this desire and your ability to work well with the other parent, you may believe that joint custody will work best for your situation. If the other parent agrees, you could avoid long, drawn-out custody proceedings in court.
Joint physical custody can often help children maintain the relationships they have with both parents. However, this arrangement also means that you and your ex-spouse will try to have the children as close to an equal amount of time as possible. While sending the kids to one house and then the other every other day likely does not seem plausible, you can always consider other custody schedules.
The exact schedule that works best for your family may depend on your personal schedules, work schedules, the kids' school schedules and other factors. It may help you narrow down the best arrangements by considering the following rotational custody scheduling examples:
- 2-2-3 rotation: This rotation schedule would allow the children to stay with you two days at the beginning of the week, the next two days with the other parent and then three days with you. The next week would have the children with the other parent the first two days, next two days with you and then three days with the other parent and so on.
- 3-3-4-4 rotation: Another rotation option would have the children spending three days with one parent at the beginning of the week and the next three days with the other parent, and then the children would spend four days with one parent and four days with the other parent.
- 2-2-5-5 rotation: With this rotation, you would have the children for two days before they went to the other parent's for two days. After the other parent's two days, you would then have the kids for five days, and then the other parent would have them for five days.
Of course, if rotational schedules do not seem feasible for whatever reason, parents would also consider weekly schedules. The most common arrangement would involve the children spending an entire week with you and then spending an entire week with the other parent. Some parents and children may struggle with being away from each other for entire weeks, and you may want to consider including midweek visits.
Even if you and the other parent agree that joint custody will work best for your children, you will still have to gain court approval for your agreement. To ensure that you have met any necessary requirements for your custody schedule, you may want to go over your agreement with your attorney.