With a new school year already here, many recently divorced parents in North Carolina are struggling with their changed family dynamic. They’re also concerned about the impact a divorce can have on their children, which often compounds the stress associated with a beginning a new year at school. In this case, Forbes offers the following tips, which can help parents as well as students handle a new school year after divorce.
Talk to your kids about goals
Your kids may be a bit introspective after the divorce has been finalized. Accordingly, ask them about what they would like to accomplish throughout the new school year, be they academic or personal goals. Talk about any road blocks they face on the way to these goals and pledge to support your children no matter what road they choose to take. This can instill a bit of self-confidence in your kids while also letting them know that you’ll be there for them no matter what.
Plan for extra expenses
A change in marital status is often accompanied by a change in finances. Be sure to have frank discussions with your ex about covering expenses for your kids, even if he or she is obligated to pay child support. For instance, who will be responsible for added expenses related to sports or other hobbies and interests? Both parents bear financial responsibility for their kids, which usually entails a little compromise from both you and your former spouse.
Think about scheduling
Most families are faced with a rather hectic school schedule. This can be exacerbated by a recent divorce, which can leave parents in conflict over who is responsible for what. In this case, take a moment to look over the school calendar for the upcoming year to get a feel for what will be required of you. You should also work with your spouse on scheduling to make sure your kids can keep up with school obligations and extra-curricular activities.